When you’re with a partner for a long time it’s simple to get comfortable and fall into a regular routine. The sex might become scarce and uninteresting, but the good news is, there are a ton of easily enjoyable fixes. If you’re feeling like you’re in a bedroom funk There are some ways to spice things up. Caution: highly flammable.

#1 – Prioritize Foreplay

We all love a tasty appetizer. Do you remember when you and your partner first started dating and pulled out all possible ways to impress each other? As we become more secure in our relationships we put less effort into the impressions part. A big mistake here is undervaluing foreplay. Foreplay shouldn’t be an “extra” that’s needed only to begin with, it must be an essential requirement every opportunity (aside from, for instance the hot shortie). It’s important to slow down and allow yourself to teasing your partner, communicating to one another the things that feel good and what’s best. Foreplay can create exuberance and stimulates the body, which is crucial for incredible sex. Biologically speaking, foreplay helps women self-lubricate, and more lubrication helps men maintain an erection. It also aids in building an emotional bond which will probably lead to more of a emotional climax. Longer foreplay = better sex.

#2 – Have a Take Out Sesh (but don’t allow it to go on any longer)

Remember back in high school when making out was the best thing ever and didn’t (always) cause sex? Take it back to the feeling of excitement and rekindle that teenage crush idea. While a night out with your partner is one some of the most private activities a couple can do, it’s also one of the first things to fade away as time goes on. Make an effort to slow down and get more than a kiss every morning when you wake up or part ways. Make sure you have a sense of anticipation and make money off that later in the day , or after you reunite.

#3 – Cook together for dinner (in modest clothes)

Appreciating each other’s appreciation will ensure that the spark is kept alive quickly. Great gestures don’t need to cost a lot of money. The best ones can be simple and considerate. Make your partner feel special with a Date Night In by making your favorite dish in your most elegant chef attire. If you’re married first, you should excuse yourself to “get cozy.” If not then, walk in wearing your most comfortable lingerie or little outfit. To score sexy comedy points take the apron, and absolutely nothing else. Light a candle and break open your preferred bottle of wine to enjoy, and let your partner watch or assist you in cooking while you sip and chat. Extra bonus: tell your loved one why you love them , or praise them for their recent accomplishments and be open to compliments you may receive from them.

#4 – Switch Up Your Sex Location

Make sure you’re not sleeping, and initiate or suggest an sex session in a location you haven’t tried yet. The couch is a safe bet, but if you’re looking for a more sexually sexy experience, try the counter in the kitchen, the dining room table or office desk. The spontaneity will not only will send a sexy and flirty message but it’ll also trigger an experience that you’ll be able to relive whenever you’re in the kitchen, eating or doing work.

#5: Send a Random Sext when they least expect It

Just because you already know every freckle and crease on the other’s body doesn’t mean a surprise sext should not be sent out every once every once in a while. It doesn’t matter if it’s a stylishly designed image of you sporting almost nothing (or perhaps, just nothing!) or even a few sexy sentences, you need to build the sexual tension to draw your baby home. Don’t think too much about it; a little, “I want you inside of me” or “I want to make your cum tonight” will get the hearts to be pumping.

#6 – Create a sex menu

What’s in the kitchen, good lookin’? On your own sheets of paper, write down three sexual actions you’d like to try in a set order, divided into appetizer, entree and dessert. Negotiate, compare, and create the menu including anal balls that you both agree is delicious, and get busy with it as your appetite for one another increases.

#7 – Create A Sexual Bucket List

Make it a step further. Begin by sitting down with your partner and write each your list of dreams or things you’d like to do together. Compare lists, swap lists, and see the things you have in common and then, among the things that differ, establish the ones you’re both comfortable trying. Note each thing down on separate pieces of paper, fold the paper in half, and then place them into a glass jar. Each time you’re looking for spice, pull from the jar and get ready to with it!

#8: Try something new outside of the bedroom

Enhance your bond by attempting new activities together. Take part in an cooking class, pottery making, a workout session (followed by some sauna time) or couples massage, or even a sex workshop! Sex workshops could be particularly beneficial because investing in the learning of your sexuality reveals that you are truly concerned about one another’s happiness and satisfaction. Find a subject that you are both interested in, from kink workshops to tantra to everything in between.

#9 – Recapture all the activities you did together that made you find love

Go all the way back. Remember the memorable moments that forged your bond and made you feel loved, and gave you both so many joy. Plan out emulations of those memories to revisit them. If it was your first beach picnic, that place where you first exchanged “I love you’s” or your favorite restaurant It’s fun to recall those important moments that helped fuel the love you share for one another.

#10 – Create a sexcation plan

Whatever your marital or parental status, you should plan an opportunity for you and your partner to leave the town alone. No kids, no stress, no responsibilities. You and your spouse, with a carefully devised strategy to achieve. It. On. Find a cozy cottage in the woods, a cottage on the beach, or a chic hotels in town, and book an entire weekend. Bring all the sexy things you love: toys clothing, outfits and whip cream. You can go offline, and completely refresh your sexual life.

An absence of sexual satisfaction within a partnership can cause friction that can lead to bigger or more frequent issues. Be aware of why you love one you, and do your best not to let the pilot light go out. It is important to be celebrated in new ways constantly. Prioritize your relationship every day.